Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate

Everyone has to tip toe around her temperamental man.  She has brought much drama into the family when she got with him and people are angered with her because of it.  As the holidays fast approach, the couple has been arguing about money, family, and where to put a Christmas tree.  There is unnecessary chaos in the woman's home and it only got worse when he hit her, again! This is just a made-up scenario, but it happens, couples fighting over so many things and relatives and friends can only further complicate matters with, "She deserved it...you know how she can be.  Let's eat."  Abused women will be showing up at family gatherings everywhere trying to excuse yet another bruise for being "...my fault."  Well, don't buy into that one!  Ask yourself, "Why would a grown woman have black and blue marks on her face, hands, arms, stomach, back, or elsewhere and it was all her fault?"  Unless she fell down somewhere with no one around, then okay...

Weeping endureth the night so who would have guessed the night Baby, why do you have a knife I didn ʼ t mean it, I love you, your my wife lets talk about this all things are possible with God in the mix Put it down and give me hug All I wanna do is Love this argument got way out of order It was my fault, sort of but that ʼ s does ʼ t matter I move slow as if I instantly gotten fatter Was it the attention, was it my tone, could it be the money I would give all up if you will still be my honey Let me hold you, no more mourning Cause joy is coming in the morning by Shane O'Garro

NOTE:  Some men might change, but not all especially when drugs, alcohol, bad associations, and ignorance is involved.  A hatred of women, self-hatred, personal prejudices, and more will only aggravate an already bad situation that should have ended a long time ago.  A man who wasn't always verbally abusive might go about his relationship differently, but don't hold your breath, create distance from someone who is hurting you.  Listen to what verbal abuse sounds like at its worse below:  Example of a Verbally Abusive Relationship that Didn't Change!

1. They won't all love you just because you do and say nice things. 2. They won't respect you if you should dress too sexy, act too boldly, or run with the wrong company of people. 3.  They don't much care what your family thinks and will work hard to get you to focus solely on what they think. 4.  They become jealous when you smile, converse long, and act polite toward other men. 5.  There are those who will act like me.  So if you don't like me much, then make a better selection. A little advice goes a long way, but when dads are too busy doing everything else, but being good fathers, oftentimes daughters don't truly know the difference between a man who sincerely loves and appreciates them and one who is simply using and abusing them.  Therefore, if the first man in a little girl's life was mean-spirited and (emotionally and/or physically) abusive toward her mother, then what do you expect she is going to do until she grows up an...

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When I reflect on a time in my life when I was so angry at a man who claimed to have loved me, one thing that stood out most in my mind was his repeated, "I'm sorry...I apologize."  He was sorry alright and so were some of those after him!  Sorry men with sorry lifestyles wanting me to complete them!  I had grown weary of trying to convince the mentally disturbed that I was being faithful, open, true, dedicated to the relationship, willing to be all things to them--you name it!  And what about me?  How many more apologies was I willing to accept before I ended up in a hospital, jail or six feet deep? An abuser whether emotionally or physically demeaning is going to apologize, because he knows that it works.  "He/She will forgive me," the abuser tells his or her self.  But a victimized woman or man who is at his or her breaking point, will put one's foot down one day and say, "Not good...

To awaken those who are asleep when it comes to what a healthy functional relationship looks like, the following videos have been posted.  Enjoy! An abused woman can grow into a controlling woman needing to dominate her man, family and others. Learn more: Author of Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate shares her story on television show Is it really love that he feels for you and vice versa or is it manipulation?

Most women who meet men are seeking to be loved, respected, and protected.  The last thing they want is a man that is troubled or mentally challenged.  But unfortunately, these men exist and their strange, controlling ways can drive your mind to a place where you don't know whether you are coming or going.  So what might be some early signs that your man is driving you insane? 1.  You obsess over trying to fix things for him in an effort to pick up his mood while putting down your own. Everyone makes mistakes, but when in a relationship with someone who is mentally troubled, mistakes are unacceptable.  Not only that, when he makes an error, doesn't feel good, or like something, rather than admit his fault, he looks around for others and things to place the blame.  You might help him by doing things to appease him, but even still, his mind is made up to remain angry, bitter, and confused about whatever the issue is.  There is nothing you can do abou...

If you are questioning some things about a new relationship and the person is leaving you feeling strange--almost attacked verbally--that is until he or she smiles and acts as if everything is okay and then strikes again...you might want to read the following: The 6 Steps of Dating a Sociopath