Regret, Repercussions, and Reward: Freedom from Predators

I felt moved to update this blog.  Inspired to share my thoughts about the abusive men and women who watch your social media pages, study you as you walk your neighborhood, work at your desk, or follow you in your car.  They are the friendly type, appearing to be harmless, but deep inside they are mean-spirited men and women with hearts that are as cold as ice.  When you least expect it, you will see their icy stare from afar.  They don't love people, they use and abuse them!

Regret

I guess I didn't see "it" coming, the pain.  Years of it.  Days of feeling like everything was okay when it really wasn't.  The mature me was angry with the naive me from long ago.  "How did you miss the signs?"  I asked myself one day.  The men I had got myself involved with in my lifetime had to sell me on even giving them the time of day.  Had I known my worth back then, they wouldn't have been given even a second look.

Repercussions

I have dedicated my life to exposing the lies, cover ups, and secrets of the manipulators, abusive...the children of darkness.  They hide behind their flattering comments on and off the Internet.  They act like they care about you, when all they want is to take anything they can get from you.  They will pursue you for years until you give in.  It doesn't matter if you, the prey, have moved on with your life complete with a partner, children, a pet, a mortgage, or in debt up to your eyeballs.  They will "help," "comfort," "love"...treat you better than the last man/woman or the one you are currently with, so they say.  I get it, it's exciting meeting new people and sure you hope that they will respect, love and care for you once you get to know them.  But oftentimes, a predator, isn't going to keep up his or her act for long!  There are repercussions for getting too close to who they are: the truth about their ugly selves!  They will feel empowered when they do things like:  withhold affection, isolate, ignore, gaslight, condemn, threaten, hit, ridicule, take for granted, and physically abuse you.  This is your punishment for not going along with their programming over days, weeks, months or even years!

Predators are unforgiving, stubborn, rude, prideful, and feel you owe them despite their abuses.  The cycle repeats itself for every time they feel vulnerable, lonely, confused, misunderstood, or have needs they rather not have fulfilled, yet sometimes they have no other choice but to rely on you which they hate.

These predators spend a lot of time on social media commenting, liking, subscribing, and pretending as if they are "good," "kind," "loving," "fun," etc.  But can I tell you, from personal experience, they are not.  They bad mouth us truth-tellers, they say we are "crazy" and we don't know what we are talking about.  They shame us to select family members and lie to those who are closest to us.  They tell us we are "mistaken, you don't know what you are talking about...you are making things up!"  Of course, liars are going to accuse others of lying.

I spent years studying abusive people closest to me before letting them go emotionally then physically.  I still have a couple more to go.  I can tell you the more you see them for who they really are, while others who don't know them so well fawn over them, the harder it is not to hate them, to damn them to hell!

Freedom

I don't know about you, who came across this blog entry, but I am tired.  I am awaiting the opportunity to be FREE of all that comes with studying abusive people!  Unfortunately, it is a requirement to observe and learn them well if you want to continue to help victims.  I rejoice knowing that this chapter of my life will soon be over, so that I can begin a new one, a chapter that is more positive, peaceful, and prosperous!  In the meantime, I encourage you to break free from the emotional bond connected to someone in your life, who hunted you down, stalked you, lied and lied some more about being a so-called "good" man or woman free to date you, buy you, help you and then later break you down! The predator is nothing more than a wolf in sheep's clothing!

Nicholl McGuire
Check out the book, Socially Sweet, Privately Cruel Abusive Men