Monday

Selfish, Violent - An Evil Partner in Hiding

They can't help themselves.  You should know by now if you have spent anytime with an emotionally and/or physically abusive partner.  No matter how much you want them to be honest, considerate, kind, loving, appreciative, or any other trait you deem righteous, it just isn't in him or her to be that way, at least not for long! 

Don't think for one minute an evil partner is clueless as to how they are mistreating others whether verbally or non-verbally.  They know full well what they are doing, they just don't know how to control the evil within. 

Believe an abusive spouse or date when they say, "I am bad...wrong for you...I have a dark side.  Sometimes I can't stand myself."  Yet, don't believe them when they say, "I am good.  I am a great human being.  I am a nice person.  I would never hurt you."  Those delusional statements do not accurately describe them.  To select individuals, evil people put on an act; they pretend like they are the best, greatest and most loving person in the room, but we know better!  When you are around your abusive partner more than their own family members, you get to see everything about them: good, bad and otherwise.  Most often family have not seen their dark side in years or ever came across it, so what do they really know?

The selfish and violent men and women of this world will convince anyone who will listen that it is everyone else that is at fault.  "Those people made me...I would have never said or did...if she would have just...I don't know what came over me it was probably something that happened to me when I was a child.  You got to believe me, I would never hurt a soul."  An evil partner has the capability to lie, kill, steal, and blame.  I say this as a warning to anyone reading this, if you suspect a dark side to your loved one, chances are you are right.  So be guarded and don't be so quick to believe any story that comes out of their wicked mouths!

Typically abusive men and women have a dark history with someone or many others.  One that so-called favorite relatives and friends might have forgotten about or dismissed.  Think about those times you saw them reacting to their partners or heard about them being mean to loved ones.  Recall personal experiences where your selfish relative told you yet another lie, false promise, omitted details out of a personal story, or sat quiet when you asked important questions about events.  Don't let their seemingly perfect image, money, material goods, and other flashy things distract you from the truth. 

As much as I would love to tell you that I have not encountered, lived with, been intimate with, or even sat next to violent men and women, I would be telling a lie.  I know what I am talking about and I pray, asking the Lord to continue to heal my soul, bring peace to my troubled mind when in their presence, and restore the years that the locusts ate up in Jesus name!

If you are in a relationship like this, you have spent a long time acquiescing to this man or woman.  You have walked on egg shells when he or she blows up.  You have tried to change your personality, speech, image, and whatever else you could to appease him or her.  You have tolerated his or her disrespect and made excuses for it.  You have found ways to survive in your mess.  But can I tell you, that God didn't make you to serve an evil human being.  He didn't put you on this planet to live in misery.  He made you strong-minded for good reason!  Selfish people don't want you to have a made up mind.  They want you to go along with whatever they want.  Evil people don't want their victims to get away.  They feel empowered knowing that once again they have lied, despised, abused, and used while you stay.

God is freeing so many believers in situations like this, give Him praise today!  Your breakthrough is coming:)  When freedom comes, Saints, don't grieve your old lifestyle like the Israelites did during the Exodus, rather rejoice in your new one ahead!

Nicholl McGuire 
God didn't put you with an abusive mate. Your flesh did.

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