Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate

Mom curses, Dad lies, and parents push one another beyond their limits.  A teen watches and he or she waits for the day one is in an argument with his or her boyfriend.  The scenario of heated discussion evolving into relationship violence is repeated.  At some point during the conflict between abusive girlfriend and boyfriend, it starts to feel familiar.  Despite the situation being emotionally and physically upsetting, the pair thinks they are justified in behaving irrationally.  A partner might spit, kick, push, punch, yell while calling his or her victim every name he or she can think of.  It isn't love that is occurring, but war with these young victims.  Where did they learn their abusive behaviors?  From parents, guardians, or grandparents who either took too long to end a bad relationship with a partner or with other family members as well as those who  choose to continue to stay while making excuses for their mean-spirited husbands or wives. Whether the abuse is phys

Could it Be That These Health Issues Contributed to Women Being Abusive Toward Men? "What did he do to cause her to hit him? He probably deserved it." "As big as he is and he is accusing her of being abusive?" "Why would he call the police on her?" This is just a sample of the many quotes that have been said about men who have been in violent relationships with their abusive wives and girlfriends. Women aren't the only victims when it comes to domestic violence, men have their share of stories too. "It takes two to tango," so the saying goes. And what the public rarely hears is his side of the story and if he chooses to share it, would we believe him anyway? Picture this, an irritable, emotional, hungry, wife with an emotional disorder that occurs two weeks out of every month. She doesn't seem to think her problem is serious. She barks out orders to her husband and children like a drill sergeant. She makes false accusations abo

Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate A 21-year-old woman’s diary to stay or go By Nicholl McGuire Education, popularity, and beauty couldn’t keep a college student from choosing a man who had a terrible secret. In this poetic story, Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate, Nicholl McGuire tells of her struggle to stay or leave her abuser. Domestic violence reared its ugly head when Nicholl, a young college student, met a man ten years older back in 1996. In her first book, Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate , Nicholl struggles with whether she should stay or leave her abuser in a series of poems that chronicle her hellish nine-month experience. Her roller coaster ride of emotions in the book provide valuable insight on the struggles abused women face when making a decision to help or escape their abusers. “This book isn’t for the woman who has already left the relationship,” Nicholl says. “Instead, it’s for the woman who is contemplating on leaving the relationship and the woman w