Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate

Isolation is one of the most insidious forms of control in abusive relationships. It often starts subtly, with your partner suggesting you spend less time with friends or family. Over time, this can evolve into outright demands, leaving you feeling utterly alone. When an abuser cuts off your social connections, they create a dependency that makes it challenging to leave. You might find yourself doubting your worth, feeling like no one understands your situation. In fact, many victims report feeling isolated, even from their support networks. An infographic from the Domestic Violence Resource Center shows that nearly 70% of individuals in abusive relationships experience isolation. This statistic highlights how prevalent this tactic is. It’s essential to recognize that isolating someone is a powerful form of control and can have devastating effects on mental health. If you’re experiencing isolation, it’s crucial to reach out. Start by reconnecting with friends or family, even if it feel...

She doesn't believe that she is being abused because it doesn't feel like it, "Isn't abuse painful, ugly, and crazy?  Not me," she thinks.  "So what that he is controlling sometimes and big deal he has a personality disorder, I love him."  But what if this victim's denial is affecting others around her?  What if the pain of her abusive situation has somehow skipped over her and onto those who love her, what then?  Abuse is abuse whether it looks or feels painful or not.   A man who isolates a woman from her sons, daughters and other relatives and friends is hurting her whether she feels the anguish or not.  She most likely convinced herself that all is okay just to tolerate being in a relationship with her abuser.  A woman who has been controlled for far too many years to count has a mind that tends to go crazy at times, whether she feels it or not, just like her controller.  The two battle...