Thursday

Male Hormone Imbalance, Irritable Male Syndrome Affects Relationships

Some men just don't want to admit to the fact that they are getting older and with the aging process comes change, not only with his body, but how he views himself and his personal relationship with someone from five months to 15 years plus.

For middle age men in denial, they rather blame relatives, children, the job and anything else standing in their way for things like emotional outbursts, forgetfulness even hot flashes.  But the truth is what causes some men to rage is fluctuating hormones due to: low testosterone a poor diet (such as skipped meals, overeating, or eating far too much junk products and drinking alcohol), too much sex or a lack of, no exercise, a lack of sleep, and more.

A man with a hormonal imbalance may not have a history of abusive behavior, but when going through a midlife crisis (30-55 plus) he just might start acting mean-spirited.  Therefore, this is why a partner will labor to love her man anyway despite a past abusive episode.  There may have only been one or a few episodes in the duration of the relationship, but not so bad that one needed to go to jail or the hospital.  Of course, this sort of behavior should not be tolerated and the victim should separate herself from her partner until he seeks help; however, for some women, they prefer to stay and help their moody men. 

Some women will do the following things:  perform the necessary research in an effort to understand the male body better and share tips with their men, make doctor's appointments, remind their men to stick to taking medication or supplements, diets and exercise, as well as sit with counselors to help sort out their personal issues with partners such as: fear, anger, unforgiveness and more.  Also, these women might have a faith and a solid support system to help them go through these trying mid-life times.

The woman who sees her partner struggling with emotional highs and lows, recognizes that this person she loves is not himself.  She sees his mood swings are triggered due to a number of issues including low testosterone.  Medical experts call this health issue in men Andropause or Irritable Male Syndrome (IMS).  There is help for these men 30 plus years who have declining low T. 

Feel free to pass the following information on to someone you care about.

Nicholl McGuire also owns and maintains a blog for young women dating older men.  See here.




Learn more about irritable males at the following sites:

Surviving Irritable Male Syndrome http://www.scribd.com/doc/29714004/How-to-Survive-the-Irritable-Male-Syndrome-10-Tips-to-Keep-Your-Relationship-From-Falling-Apart

Male Hormone Testing http://www.zrtlab.com/male-hormones

Irritable Male Syndrome Quiz http://theirritablemale.com/quiz2.htm

Low Testosterone: How Do You Know When Levels Are Too Low?http://men.webmd.com/features/low-testosterone-explained-how-do-you-know-when-levels-are-too-low

Here is a sample of what a healthy meal looks like for a man seeking to raise his testosterone levels:

The Diet

This is a sample daily meal plan which is designed to maximize testosterone levels for a 180-pound individual.

Breakfast

  • 4 large whole eggs
  • 1 packet cream of wheat (instant)
  • 1/2 avocado

Morning Snack

  • 8 oz. container low-fat fruit yogurt
  • 1 banana
  • 1 oz. mixed nuts

Lunch

  • 4 oz. turkey deli meat
  • 2 slices whole-wheat bread
  • 1/2 avocado

Preworkout Snack

  • 1 scoop whey protein (in water)
  • 2 slices white bread
  • 1 Tbsp. peanut butter

Postworkout Snack

  • 1 scoop whey protein (in water)
  • 1/3 cup dextrose or sugar

Dinner

  • 6 oz. top sirloin steak
  • 1 cup cooked white rice
  • 1 cup cooked cauliflower

Evening Snack

  • 8 oz. cottage cheese
  • 1 packet cream of wheat (instant)
  • 1 oz. mixed nuts

Totals

3,369 calories, 197 g protein 398 g carbs, 111 g fat
Author: Jim Stoppani

Friday

Abused Children & The Nasty Relatives and Adults Who Hurt Them!

Some people are being emotionally and physically hurt daily (or periodically) by someone in their family.  From fathers to cousins, people who claim to love them, are using and abusing them for their sick pleasures!

A working mother, an ailing guardian, or fearful sibling living in the home may or may not know what is going on with the little girl or boy who is often in trouble, sad, or angry.  Meanwhile, the abuser is getting away with hurting someone they are entrusted to care for. 

Children are not put on this earth to be abused, but some individuals assume that because others have done hurtful things to them or they once did the same things when they were a child, then it's okay.  But it's wrong!  It's so wrong!

A child's body is not able to handle something meant to be shared between two adults.  Think about all the complications that abused victims go through without any help.  Mentally they are unstable.  Physically they have illnesses, that for some, they never recover from.  Pregnancies, STDs, and more they have to face, all because a mentally ill adult decided to make their dark fantasies a reality!

Abused children reason that it is okay for an uncle, cousin, step-parent, or whoever else to do what they do to them, because they are familiar with that person and don't want to get into any trouble.  An immature mind will do almost anything for a piece of candy, a friendship, a new toy, or something else.

Recognize the signs of ongoing abuse.  Are there unexplained markings on a child's body?  Is there an adult who is spending far too much time with your child and often buying him/her some thing?  The abuser could be covering up some things he or she is doing to the child while family members are away.  Maybe the adult is threatening the child.  Notice the child's face and mannerisms when he or she is around this individual.  Are children often scared, crying, and doing other frightful things whenever this person comes around or offers to watch them?  Check clothing, look for blood or feces stains, and other things like wet sheets, urine smells, and other bodily fluids.  Ask yourself, "Why would a child tend to have these bodily issues especially when a certain adult is around?  Why does my child's room or other places in the home smell like that?"  Watch for signs that someone is covering up something by removing clothing, sheets, spraying air fresheners, etc.  Has your child typically hugged you and has been talkative, but now he or she is acting distant?  Is a relative or friend often telling your child what to say to you or telling him or her to go hug you when that wasn't an issue before?  Is this person too touchy/feely (kissing, hand-holding, rubbing legs) with your child?  Does he or she visit your child's bedroom at night and stays in the room for awhile or permits the child to stay up late while you go off to bed?"

When one is abused, he or she must speak up, but sometimes it just isn't possible when one's mind is already warped with the threats, promises, and other statements made by the abuser.  A parent, relative or someone else should be watching children.  No job, activity, event, hobby or something else should be so important that a person can't get away and get in touch with children.  Parents: leave work early some time.  Take a day off without no one knowing.  Stay up late at night periodically and arise early.  Don't permit children to stay in rooms all day especially with doors closed or sleep together in beds at night.  Not only can an adult abuse a child without one knowing, but children can abuse one another.  Don't ever assume, "Not my child...my boyfriend would never...grandma wouldn't hurt a flea...my uncles and cousins love children..."  Be watchful of everyone and put your personal feelings aside!  We live in an evil world where most people are lax when it comes to morals and what is right and wrong--never assume anything! 

The most powerful weapon an abused person has against an abuser is exposing them.  Share information with a trusted school official, contact police, write a letter to a support group, tell a parent, contact children and youth services...but do something!


Nicholl McGuire is the author of Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate



God didn't put you with an abusive mate. Your flesh did.

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