Tuesday

As if the Relationship Wasn't Complicated Enough...

 
Now she's pregnant. 
Do you really believe things will get better?
 
Love from a distance.
  
Learn how you can be in your child's life without having to live with her.
The fussing, fighting, and other stresses do nothing more than further complicate matters.
She was out of her mind prior to pregnancy, during and after.
 
She's Crazy by Nicholl McGuire
 

Monday

Attention Men - Broken Women, Party Girls - Abusive, Angry

Tired of the arguments, physical fights, mood swings, and more?  She is a broken woman or a party girl.  You think you can save her?  Men Don't Pity Broken Women, Party Girls

Tuesday

Visiting The Emotionally Abusive Partner's Family - Why Bother?

It is about an image of perfection--appearing like all is well when it really isn't.  I get it.  I did it. You smile.  His relatives ask, "How's things?  You look good.  Glad to see you!  You both look so good together!"  If only they knew.  I saw this happen more than enough times in my life with different men (sigh).

They don't have a clue what you went through the night before or weeks prior.  Their beloved son or daughter acting like a complete fool!  Screaming, hurling insults, acting threatening...you contemplated on calling the police.  "What has gotten into this crazy S.O.B.!" you think.  Your emotionally abusive partner may have thought the same about you too.

Difficult people will tempt you to do some things that you thought you would never do.  They are hateful at times and harmful to themselves and others.  Sometimes it is a mental disturbance that drives them mad and other times its them feeling powerless.  Abusive men and women thrive on power and when they feel they have none, that is when they go on attack.  If they feel like they are being controlled, they will also launch a verbal war.  "You don't tell me what to do...Who do you think you are?  You are lucky you are still alive today!  You miserable little..."  You know how mean-spirited they can be.  You know how you are too.

Yet, at a family function, all is calm right?  You might detect a little of the beast showing up if you should say or do something that a partner feels is offensive.  You will hear about it after the show.  Parents and grandparents don't want to hear anything negative.  It is the holiday season and everyone is supposed to behave themselves. Put on the illusion that you have the best relationship ever even if you know differently.  But why?  Why spend your hard-earned money to act?  Why behave like you are in love when you really are not?  Why allow fear of a partner to make you go somewhere that you really don't want to be?

Until you are weary of the act, you will continue to put on the grand performance year after year.  Each holiday season will challenge you to hold back tears, put away fears (at least temporarily) and behave yourself.  It doesn't matter that your emotional abuser cursed at you like you were a stranger on the street.  Threw something at you like he or she never wanted to see you again in life.  The family mustn't know.  Chances are they already suspect you aren't happy, but they choose to ignore your sad eyes and what your child or children may have already confided in them about your turbulent relationship.  On with the show, shall we?

Nicholl McGuire

Friday

Why God? Cold, Uncaring Partners

You learn from the best of them growing up.  You know how to get along with some of the most vicious people, both male and female, because you were trained by them.  But little do you know later in life that you just might end up in a relationship with someone who reminds you of the same people you grew up with or even yourself. 

You don't consider yourself to be mean, cold, and hot-tempered like the one you attracted, but spend enough time with him or her, and they will test you in ways you thought you could never be tested!

I realized my mistakes a long time ago, but I honestly hoped for the best over and over and over again with each man I dated.  I put off my guarded self, and was deceived into believing the lies of charming men.  The socially sweet and privately cruel ones I talk about in my non-fiction book.  I don't beat around the bush in that guide designed to strengthen women and cause them to be more discerning about all men. 

We have got to do better parents/teachers/counselors/ministers in instructing the younger ones about the kind of men who are out there that don't look mean, but are, that don't act rudely, but are deadly!  No sugar-coating, no covering up who their fathers/uncles/cousins and others really are underneath all their niceties...the cold and uncaring men are among us!  They don't like women as much as they pretend, they use them.  Watch how the cold-bloodied behave around men just like themselves.  These angry men are uncomfortable around their own kind.  It takes one to know one.  They are careful letting people like themselves around their families.

Why God, do we contend with the demons that are within and around these men?  Why not take them all away?  I shudder to know that sometimes being with someone who is cold and uncaring is the only way some women will come to know God.  I'm a witness.

Get the book and send it to someone you care about or read it for yourself!  Socially Sweet, Privately Cruel Abusive Men

Nicholl

Sunday

A Number of Men Have Been Abused by Women and They Will Never Tell

He doesn't want to admit that his partner is mean and violent, but the scars on his heart and body reveal otherwise. Husbands, fathers, uncles, and other men are frequently being mistreated by wives and girlfriends and no one has a clue, because they say nothing. These battered men know that society isn't always empathetic about males being hurt by women. In the book, She's Crazy written by Nicholl McGuire, the author who survived emotional abuse and domestic violence shares intimate knowledge about abusive women. She tells of disturbing personal observations and advises men on what to look out for when dealing with "Ms. Crazy."

According to a 2010 study conducted by the Centers of Disease Control and the Department of Justice on battered men, there have been well-over five million men who have been abused by women. Although these abused men are recorded, there are many who never report incidents with wives, girlfriends and mothers due to personal shame and revenge. A victim of domestic violence for years, one man commented when asked why he never said anything about his wife being abusive, "I felt ashamed...embarrassed." The author says, "A once stable woman doesn't just become crazy, she has to be driven insane. Whatever it was or who that moved her to lose her mind (usually prior to meeting her partner) is most likely what continues to trigger her emotional instability." She goes on, "So a partner's issues might contribute indirectly to her mad world without him realizing it. Some men don't fully comprehend what is happening in their intimate relationships, while others do, but they eventually become drained of fighting with ill partners."

McGuire, a wife and mother of four, shares, "Abused men start looking for healthy or unhealthy ways to get out of their mess." She adds, "This is why I provided tips in She's Crazy to help these men escape from their mentally and physically binding relationships. Yet, they can't get totally free until they look at what they might be doing to attract wild females in the first place."

McGuire's informative self-help guide for battered men is available on Smashwords.com. The author has also penned other nonfiction books including: Tell Me Mother You're Sorry, Say Goodbye to Dad, Laboring to Love Myself, When Mothers Cry and more.

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