Based on a book with the same title written by Nicholl McGuire, this domestic and dating violence blog offers support to anyone who is laboring to love an emotionally or physically abusive partner. Feel free to explore numerous relationship and family issues. Please be advised to seek a professional for counsel on abuse. Contributors are not all licensed or trained in relationship counseling, domestic abuse, and teen dating violence. Please be advised this is a public blog.
Monday
Saturday
The Evil that People Do...
It all starts...
with a look.
An accusation.
A threat.
Telling you that what you see/feel/hear is incorrect.
Looking for others to support them on their lies, they act as if they are something special, a good person.
Sharing with family and friends that you are the crazy one, meanwhile they are the ones with the mental illness.
Blaming exes, employers, and even their own children for everything that is "wrong, bad."
They make excuses for why they do what they do and might even cry and show a bit of empathy.
They cover up, lie and isolate victims so that no one will catch wind of the truth.
They plan to pay back for pre-conceived wrong-doing, for exposing vulnerabilities, for wanting to get away from them.
They come up with clever schemes, pretending to be righteous and honest while lying even to God.
They say, "You aren't going anywhere...you need me...I love you...I still want you...I will change."
But they don't....
They don't
They don't.
Nicholl McGuire author of Socially Sweet, Privately Cruel Abusive Men, She's Crazy and other books.
with a look.
An accusation.
A threat.
Telling you that what you see/feel/hear is incorrect.
Looking for others to support them on their lies, they act as if they are something special, a good person.
Sharing with family and friends that you are the crazy one, meanwhile they are the ones with the mental illness.
Blaming exes, employers, and even their own children for everything that is "wrong, bad."
They make excuses for why they do what they do and might even cry and show a bit of empathy.
They cover up, lie and isolate victims so that no one will catch wind of the truth.
They plan to pay back for pre-conceived wrong-doing, for exposing vulnerabilities, for wanting to get away from them.
They come up with clever schemes, pretending to be righteous and honest while lying even to God.
They say, "You aren't going anywhere...you need me...I love you...I still want you...I will change."
But they don't....
They don't
They don't.
Nicholl McGuire author of Socially Sweet, Privately Cruel Abusive Men, She's Crazy and other books.
Tuesday
A Rant on Attracting the Narcissist Spouse, Partner, Believer
"How do you "Avoid such men as these" when they literally lied to you to get you to fall for them. They have a "false self" that they present to you...love-bomb you from the start. You think you hit the jackpot and your life with them will be one of chasing after the Lord together and living for Him. And after you're hooked (married) they deny any of your needs or dreams or your calling even.
Something as simple as asking for a conversation, his time, a date night, setting goals for your future together is met with "What is wrong with you. You need help." So you lower your standards to keep peace and they set the bar higher for what you should be doing for them. Everything causes narcissistic injury and you find yourself being belittled, demeaned, ignored, denied. Even your FEELINGS are just wrong, wrong, wrong. They control and manipulate your time and energies. It all must be focused on their needs and their interests. And when you are beaten down enough, they treat you as if you are disposable.
When they say "You should be grateful I don't beat you." "Leave me...no one will think any less of ME if you go." They blame every bad thing on you and take all the credit for all the good in your life. Even stealing the revelations you receive from the Word and sharing them as though they are their own. They tell you after every abuse that you are to forgive them 70 X 7 and that you have no idea what unconditional love is because you are struggling to feel anything for them after a while.
They tell you "The woman is made for the man, NOT the other way around." It is evil to the core. And then they play the victim. And they expect YOU to apologize to them and jump back in bed with a smile on your face. How do you "Avoid such men" when (you) are married (to) him?" -- Comment made by Youtuber on NM Enterprise7
Something as simple as asking for a conversation, his time, a date night, setting goals for your future together is met with "What is wrong with you. You need help." So you lower your standards to keep peace and they set the bar higher for what you should be doing for them. Everything causes narcissistic injury and you find yourself being belittled, demeaned, ignored, denied. Even your FEELINGS are just wrong, wrong, wrong. They control and manipulate your time and energies. It all must be focused on their needs and their interests. And when you are beaten down enough, they treat you as if you are disposable.
When they say "You should be grateful I don't beat you." "Leave me...no one will think any less of ME if you go." They blame every bad thing on you and take all the credit for all the good in your life. Even stealing the revelations you receive from the Word and sharing them as though they are their own. They tell you after every abuse that you are to forgive them 70 X 7 and that you have no idea what unconditional love is because you are struggling to feel anything for them after a while.
They tell you "The woman is made for the man, NOT the other way around." It is evil to the core. And then they play the victim. And they expect YOU to apologize to them and jump back in bed with a smile on your face. How do you "Avoid such men" when (you) are married (to) him?" -- Comment made by Youtuber on NM Enterprise7
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