How Do You Know When It's Time to Fight
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Leading Up to the Major Fall Out -- One Day Paramedics, Police Will Be Called
Behind the Scenes of Many Dysfunctional Relationships They usually don't start that way, but then again, maybe. Too blind to lust they don't see the light. He didn't like the way she talked to him (even when he was in the wrong about things he did or didn't do.) Pouting, silence, cursing, talking about her negatively behind her back. "B-tches! All the same." She knew his thoughts just by the way he acted around her so she did the same. This time she was at fault. "Two wrongs don't make it right." Complaints about the little things that grow into bigger things from debt to children. "You always want to do something with your family! Who is that on your phone? What are you looking at on the computer? You are such a liar! Why do I put up with this sh-t!" Children witness the arguments, they cry. Couple yelling. Children say, "I wish they would stop." He lied about something again and so she caugh
Decades of Marriage and What Does One Show for It?
For years a couple has been together and has hoped for the best. Argument after argument has resulted in emotional and physical wounds. Those who have been verbally, nonverbally and physical abusive to one another typically want to get out, but often don't--not for a long-time. It is their wish for "things to get better" that keep them in miserable relationships even when they know they should be getting out. What does one really have to show for being in an abusive relationship 10 plus years? Is it the numbers that make him or her feel like one has done some thing significant in life? Maybe it is the drama the couple has withstood over the years that make some brag about how long they have been together. Whatever the reason that an abusive partner and his or her victim don't hesitate to share how long they have had to put up, shut up, and overall deal with one another, it just isn't healthy staying with anyone who destroys a temple that houses a God-crea
So You Insist on Dating/Having Relationship with Abuser? Here's What You Both Need to Do
Some couples just don't get it, they are not meant to be with one another, but since they insist on "making it work...we love one another," then it would make sense to do the following if they think for a moment they can have a good relationship one day. 1. Learn to listen and shut up. 2. Stop watching violent shows and listening to angry and sad music. 3. Avoid alcohol and drugs. 4. Don't visit relatives and friends' homes who you know don't like you or your mate. 5. Fight when your children aren't around. 6. Permit people who know more than you to counsel you through your storms. 7. Keep your business to yourself. Nicholl is the author of Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate and other books.