Sunday

On Attracting Evil, Violent Men

Some women live for a wild time with a wild boyfriend.  They enjoy rough sex, crazy thrills, weird foods, and fun places to try new things.  But at some point life slows down whether through an unexpected pregnancy, death, lost of freedom, or some other difficult time.  The laughter stops, the pain takes over then one starts wondering, "How did I get here?"

Bruised, bloodied, sick, or sore all over from yet another fight with a man who claims to love her, a young woman says, "Never again will I date another man like this one!"  So off she goes, a free woman with legs still intact and very much capable of living life without a violent lover.  Yet, days, weeks, months, or years later, who comes walking into her life, but another angry, evil man!

Evil and violent men oftentimes don't behave weird, at least in the beginning of the dating process, they tend to cover up all signs with many words and promises while smiling.  They offer their services, like handyman skills, and give money away to women in need, but in time things change if the evil men don't see anything in return.

Many angry men are very similar in the way that they behave.  Let's review the signs:

1.  They become easily irritated especially when a fault is pointed out by a loved one, family member, or friend.

2.  They are good pretenders when they act like they care about an intimate partner's concern or situation.

3.  They use evil stares, a deep voice, or other body language to communicate to a lover in public to "stay in line or else."  For example, if a boyfriend doesn't want his girlfriend talking with other men at a party, he will signal her to chill out.

4.  They will attempt to discredit you with others.  They might talk about how "crazy, strange, rude, dumb..." etc. you are, so as to appear like they are brilliant.

5.  They will threaten or be emotional and physically abusive.

6.  They have little patience for children and animals.

7.  They have a history of being violent, watching violence, or orchestrating a plan for violence.

When you see or hear something that doesn't make you feel right when interacting with someone who is violent, share what you have learned with a trusted friend (one he doesn't know).  Seek professional guidance from a domestic violence counselor.  If you have a faith, use it!  Ask God to give you the strength to let an abusive man go, bind fear, and ask the Almighty for an escape plan.

Nicholl McGuire

 

Saturday

Good Friends: Do You Have Any?

When dealing with a number of trials in your life, it is best to have some good friends or acquaintances that are willing to help.  But how do you know who is friend or foe when you have become accustomed to welcoming bad people in your life?

7 Signs You Have a Good Friend

1.  This person listens and responds to your needs.

Whatever the issue, your friend is listening and only responding when he or she feels it is necessary.  This person doesn't make you feel like you are talking to a wall, are a bad person, or not worth his or her time.

2.  He or she appreciates you by telling you so verbally and physically.

A good friend will show and tell how much he or she appreciates what you do for him or her.  This person will find a way to return favors.

3.  He or she will not allow others to bad mouth or abuse you.

When others attempt to say negative things about you, this person will speak up with positive things to say.  He or she doesn't want to upset you so the individual will try hard not to hurt you with words or unkind deeds.

4.  This person will comfort you in good times and bad.

Your friend doesn't just call or come around when you are in a good mood, but when he or she detects you aren't feeling so well, the friend shows his or her love with a pot of soup or bags of remedies/food/supplies in hand.

5.  The individual will reach out to you even when you push him or her away.

A good friend knows when you are out of your mind with stress, so despite your efforts to keep him or her away, this person will look for ways to stay in your life bringing whatever he or she can to help you get some peace of mind.

6.  This person will share wisdom and correct you on your wrongdoings.

People who sincerely care about you will correct you when you are saying or doing some things to yourself and others that is causing problems.  They do not fear your angry remarks.

7.  He or she loves you even when you feel like you don't deserve to be loved.

No matter what your state of being or what you think of yourself, your good friend will build you up and remind you just how special you are!

If you are so blessed to have someone like this in your life, give your Heavenly Father praise today! 

Nicholl McGuire
God didn't put you with an abusive mate. Your flesh did.

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