Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate

  Since 1996, I have shared my experiences with people in-person, over the phone and via the Internet. With each passing year, I continue to hear of the manipulative tactics that abusers use to exert power and control over their victims. The stories are still much the same as my personal accounts, you want to believe that the person will change, but the truth is, the evil just goes into hiding. Please show your support for those who got away and those who still have yet to get away, click below.

The following is a list of items individuals and groups can use to spread the word about domestic violence.  Consider these tools when organizing an event, teaching classes, speaking and more.  People need to know that domestic violence happens every nine seconds.  Most cases go unreported.  The impact of family violence on other family members is long-lasting and may continue on affecting other generations.  Stop the violence, don't enable it! Books Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men Socially Sweet, Privately Cruel Abusive Men She's Crazy - battered men Movies Every 9 Seconds Shattered Dreams Music No Harm Done (Songs Against Domestic Violence) Rise Up Against Domestic Violence Through Music Vol. 1 Jewelry PinMart's Purple Ribbon Survivor Pin Domestic Violence Silicone Bracelet Domestic Violence Awareness Shirt

Are you in an abusive relationship, just got out of one or was in one awhile ago?  Having been through or still going through a tough time doesn't mean you can't warn others about dating or domestic violence.  Kicking off the domestic violence awareness month, Nicholl shares abuse statistics listed on SafeVoices.org  which were gathered from a variety of sources mentioned in audio and available on the site. In this message, the survivor adds thoughtful commentary generating deep thought about relationship abuse.  Listen and ponder on the following information.  Enlighten a few.  Feel free to follow along by clicking on SafeVoices.org  and this audio,  Why Does it Matter? Violent Relationship Stats .  

With so much in the media about domestic violence lately, one can only wonder just how many couples will think twice before slapping, hitting, kicking, or doing other hurtful things to one another.  Physical and verbal abuse can happen to any couple doing anytime of their lives.  Sometimes we think of young couples physically fighting with one another or "those poor people..." but the reality is that men and women regardless of age, income, social status, upbringing, and more will fight.  The presence of mental illness might trigger constant fighting.  There could be issues with substance abuse that contribute to an all out war of words.  Then other times verbal and physical abuse could result because someone is overworked, tired, bitter about a past incident, vengeful, or any other reason he or she believes is worth beating a partner down with fists and words. When the presence of domestic violence is ongoing in a relationship, one must be certain he...

To awaken those who are asleep when it comes to what a healthy functional relationship looks like, the following videos have been posted.  Enjoy! An abused woman can grow into a controlling woman needing to dominate her man, family and others. Learn more: Author of Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate shares her story on television show Is it really love that he feels for you and vice versa or is it manipulation?

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You may have heard a story about domestic violence, been a victim yourself or just don't understand why women stay, whatever your reason for being interested in Domestic Violence Awareness, you are at least making an attempt to educate yourself and possibly help someone else and that's all anyone who once was a victim and those who are now deceased would want, but for those people who want to do more, the following are tips to help you get started. First, conduct research about domestic violence. You should be able to answer some of the why, how, when, what, and who questions related to the subject. Also, read about others' plights. Even though many of the stories have similar patterns, there is always something new in each that may stimulate thoughts of " I never knew that." Second, be sure that you are sincerely empathetic and not judgmental about those who have been in violent relationships. You will know if you have resolved your own issues about women who sta...