Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate

No one ever expects to marry an abuser, yet unfortunately, it happens more often than we'd like to admit. Emotional and physical abuse - whether it be part of a single incident or an on-going pattern - can take a devastating toll on the victim's sense of self, sense of safety and overall wellbeing. That is why it is so important for individuals in such an unhealthy and destructive relationship to recognize the signs and get out sooner rather than later. In this blog post, I will discuss some tell-tale signs that can indicate a person has married an emotionally and physically abusive partner as well as why time is of the essence when deciding to leave such a miserable relationship. 1. Your partner constantly blames you for their unhappiness and belittles your accomplishments and ideas.  2. Your spouse is incredibly controlling, demanding to know where you are at all times, who you are with, and what you are doing. 3. They become very jealous if you show any interest in someone e

What do you think is one of the reasons why some women avoid being abused while others walk right into it? We all have our share of baggage and for some of us when we don't want to face it, drop it off, or carry it, we pretend as if it doesn't exist. We walk blindly into situations all-trusting without a Father who is all-knowing.   We can be so gullible at times, loving people far too much, and a fool guided by our senses rather than our spirit.  No matter what people say, we cry out, "I never said...I never did...I never heard...I never saw...I would never...!" you may have forgotten the warning, "Never say never!"   Sometimes on and off day you do things that get you or someone else into trouble whether it is a piece of advice that goes wrong or feet that end up somewhere they shouldn't be. Read the following fictional example of a classic girl meets boy scenario started via the Internet.  "I remember the day I met him like it was yesterday. We w

I was in a relationship with a charming man. I thought he was wonderful at first, but it didn't take long for the abuse to start. The first time he hit me, I was completely shocked. I couldn't believe that the man I loved could be capable of something like that. It wasn't long before the abuse became a regular occurrence. He would cheat on me and then use that as an excuse to hit me or scream at me. I was always unhappy and constantly experienced health related challenges. I didn't feel like being intimate with him, but he didn't care. He only wanted what he could get from me financially, sexually, and emotionally. He took advantage of my generosity and kindness. I eventually left him, but the experience has left me scarred for life. Does that sound familiar? However, the last part about “leaving” doesn’t apply to millions of people who are still in abusive relationships. As for the scars, they are like those that appear on the skin, some heal and others remain to b