Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate

Trigger Warning:  This post discusses domestic violence, including emotional, physical, and sexual abuse. If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or the Arizona Coalition to End Sexual and Domestic Violence at 1-800-782-6400. The Hidden Reality: Domestic Violence in Arizona and Beyond Domestic violence is not just a private issue—it’s a public health crisis. In Arizona, the numbers are staggering:  42.6% of women and 33.4% of men  have experienced intimate partner violence, sexual violence, or stalking in their lifetimes[1]. In 2024 alone,  61 Arizonans were killed in domestic violence-related homicides , with over half of those deaths occurring in Maricopa County[2]. These statistics are not just numbers—they represent lives, families, and futures forever changed. Why Don’t Victims “Just Leave”? A common question—often asked with good intentions but little understanding—is:  Why don’t vict...

If you’re questioning the dynamics of your relationship, you’re not alone. Emotional abuse can be subtle and insidious, often disguised as love or concern. Understanding the signs of emotional abuse is crucial for your well-being. Let’s explore what emotional abuse looks like and how you can empower yourself to seek help. What is Emotional Abuse? Emotional abuse involves behaviors that undermine a person's self-worth, emotional stability, and autonomy. Unlike physical abuse, which is more visible, emotional abuse often occurs behind closed doors and can be just as damaging. The National Domestic Violence Hotline emphasizes that emotional abuse can lead to long-lasting psychological harm. Common Signs of Emotional Abuse Manipulation : If your partner frequently questions your decisions or feelings, it may be a sign of emotional manipulation. For example, if they say, “If you really loved me, you would do this,” it’s a red flag. Isolation : An emotionally abusive partner may try to k...