Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate

In 2026, our conversations around dating often focus on "intentionality" and "finding the real deal." But there is a darker side to this push for connection that we can’t afford to ignore. Despite our modern tools and supposedly progressive values, domestic violence (DV) isn't just sticking around—in many places, it’s becoming more frequent and more dangerous. It’s time to talk about what’s actually happening behind closed doors and why the "old signs" aren't the only things we should be looking for. The Rising Tide of Violence We often hope that as society evolves, violence will decrease. Unfortunately, the data suggests otherwise. In January 2026,  lawmakers in Nebraska  were forced to introduce a sweeping package of bills to combat a surge in DV-related deaths—hitting a grim 30 fatalities in a single year. This isn't an isolated trend. From high-profile cases making national headlines to local spikes in non-fatal strangulations (a major red ...

Okay, sisters, let's talk. The holidays are over . The forced cheer, the fake smiles, the maxed-out credit cards – it's all done. And for some of you, that means the spotlight is now shining BRIGHTLY on the mess that is your relationship. Maybe the alcohol loosened some lips, and ugly truths came spilling out. Maybe the financial strain of trying to create a "perfect" Christmas just amplified the control your partner has over your life. Maybe you're just bone-tired of the same old cycle of abuse, now with extra holiday-flavored misery. Whatever it is, you're here. And that's a start. Let's be real: January is the month of regret. Regret for the money spent, the words said, the promises broken. But you know what the biggest regret is? Staying one minute longer than you have to in a relationship that's draining your soul. I know, I know. It's scary. Maybe you're financially dependent. Maybe you're afraid of what he'll do if you le...