A Rant on Attracting the Narcissist Spouse, Partner, Believer

"How do you "Avoid such men as these" when they literally lied to you to get you to fall for them.  They have a "false self" that they present to you...love-bomb you from the start.  You think you hit the jackpot and your life with them will be one of chasing after the Lord together and living for Him.  And after you're hooked (married) they deny any of your needs or dreams or your calling even. 

Something as simple as asking for a conversation, his time, a date night, setting goals for your future together is met with "What is wrong with you.  You need help."  So you lower your standards to keep peace and they set the bar higher for what you should be doing for them.  Everything causes narcissistic injury and you find yourself being belittled, demeaned, ignored, denied.  Even your FEELINGS are just wrong, wrong, wrong.  They control and manipulate your time and energies.  It all must be focused on their needs and their interests.  And when you are beaten down enough, they treat you as if you are disposable. 

When they say "You should be grateful I don't beat you."  "Leave me...no one will think any less of ME if you go."  They blame every bad thing on you and take all the credit for all the good in your life.  Even stealing the revelations you receive from the Word and sharing them as though they are their own.  They tell you after every abuse that you are to forgive them 70 X 7 and that you have no idea what unconditional love is because you are struggling to feel anything for them after a while. 

They tell you "The woman is made for the man, NOT the other way around."  It is evil to the core.  And then they play the victim.  And they expect YOU to apologize to them and jump back in bed with a smile on your face.  How do you "Avoid such men" when (you) are married (to) him?" -- Comment made by Youtuber on NM Enterprise7