The "I Was Drunk" Excuse - An Abuser's Pass to Hurt You Again
One's partner/boyfriend/spouse will one day be drunk soon and the excuse as to why he or she hurt you yet again will be, "I was drunk..." Cheating, lying, kicking, slapping, choking, verbal insults, and other abusive things occur between some drunks and their victims. So what does one do about it? Well for victims they stay. Safety isn't high on their priority list because usually the next day, the drunk is back to his or her normal self. The victims see their partners the next morning, when they appear to be somewhat coherent, and they either act like fools hurling insults about the night before, breaking things out of frustration, slamming doors, using silent treatment, bad-mouthing about the drunk to family and friends, etc. while excusing the behavior by staying. Others might think deeply about why they tolerate the abusive drunks in their households for days, weeks, months, or even years while contemplating ending the relationship.
If one is serious about disconnecting from someone, who is creating more problems than solving them, then it would make sense to start creating some distance. From canceling joint accounts, ventures, and future plans to making arrangements to move out, the victim must one day say, "Enough is enough!" An abuser who is determined to make a relationship work will get necessary help, but one, who could care less about his or her self and family, will continue to act as if everything is okay and all is under control.
A drunk, violent man or woman that truly wants to change will recognize what is happening in and around him or her and how his or her actions might be affecting others. But until the alcoholic is certain he or she wants to make immediate changes, there will always be the excuse, "I was drunk...You know I didn't mean it...Things happen when you're drunk...So what I said/did whatever, so what are you going to do about it? You remember when you did...Why are you always on my back?"
A person will only go as far as you will let him or her when it comes to abuse. So the more you give an alcoholic abuser a pass on his or her evil ways, the more the individual will assume you are okay with how he or she behaves and will continue.
May God be with those who live with people who drink to get drunk this weekend and every weekend.
Nicholl McGuire shares spiritual insight on YouTube channel: nmenterprise7
If one is serious about disconnecting from someone, who is creating more problems than solving them, then it would make sense to start creating some distance. From canceling joint accounts, ventures, and future plans to making arrangements to move out, the victim must one day say, "Enough is enough!" An abuser who is determined to make a relationship work will get necessary help, but one, who could care less about his or her self and family, will continue to act as if everything is okay and all is under control.
A drunk, violent man or woman that truly wants to change will recognize what is happening in and around him or her and how his or her actions might be affecting others. But until the alcoholic is certain he or she wants to make immediate changes, there will always be the excuse, "I was drunk...You know I didn't mean it...Things happen when you're drunk...So what I said/did whatever, so what are you going to do about it? You remember when you did...Why are you always on my back?"
A person will only go as far as you will let him or her when it comes to abuse. So the more you give an alcoholic abuser a pass on his or her evil ways, the more the individual will assume you are okay with how he or she behaves and will continue.
May God be with those who live with people who drink to get drunk this weekend and every weekend.
Nicholl McGuire shares spiritual insight on YouTube channel: nmenterprise7
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