Welcome to this page...Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate
Thank you for stopping by. If you are a first time visitor or have been following this blog for awhile now, I would personally like to say, "Welcome!" This blog was created based on the book, Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate by Nicholl McGuire back in 2007.
For years, the blog content has been everything from spiritual abuse to domestic violence and other abusive issues in between. You will find information about the psychological make-up of abusers by both laypersons and professionals. In addition, you will be enlightened on various aspects of abuse and what you can do about it.
This is not a blog for the judgmental, the squeamish, or those who would like nothing more than to gossip about the content. However, what this work accomplishes is what deceased victims, who have gone before us didn't, and that was an awakening to what goes on behind the closed doors of some relatives, friends, co-workers, and others. What you see isn't always what you get. What you believe isn't abuse just might be.
From tactics to manipulate, confuse, blame, or brainwash, an abuser is clever while smiling. He doesn't always look like the creepy guy in a horror film walking on the side of the road or the guy you see staring off into space on a crowded bus. He isn't always a "he" who abuses either. Sometimes he is a she. There are many types of abusers that fall in various social classes, come from a variety of backgrounds, and are quite skilled at making the public believe they are open, honest and true while partners, exes, parents, children, and others no different.
I have spent years studying personally and professionally these deceptive men and women who believe themselves to be quite loving, kind, and more, but the truth of the matter is that many have been through much trauma over the years that has never been dealt with spiritually, mentally and/or physically. Their minds warped, their stories twisted, their line of reasoning disturbing, and their spiritual belief system false.
Not everyone is meant to be married or in a relationship, have children, assist others, and do more, yet they try anyway and miserably fail. We can't make a round peg fit in a square hole, my friends. In other words, there is no forcing something that was never meant to be or trying to make a witch look like a fairy godmother or a narcissist look like a Prince Charming. People who labor to love abusive mates often deceive themselves and others.
Laboring to love emotionally and physically abusive individuals is a daily work that requires much sacrifice of money, time, patience, and more. If an abuser is emotionally unavailable, you are forcing something that is not going to work in the long term. If he or she is filled with envy, hatred, and fights every time you say something is wrong, be prepared to spend most of your life verbally or physically battling with such a person. Love was never meant to be like slave labor, but victims work and feel like slaves in these relationships!
It is my personal belief that troubled men and women in such tiresome, emotionally and physically draining relationships will be set free based on their hearts' desire--only God really knows that! Allow this blog to give you the knowledge, understanding, and protection you need to stand up for yourself and protect those around you. Feel free to subscribe, share or comment.
Nicholl McGuire
YouTube channel: nmenterprise7
Twitter @nichollmcguire
Also on Pin Interest, Stumble Upon and other social sites around the web.
For years, the blog content has been everything from spiritual abuse to domestic violence and other abusive issues in between. You will find information about the psychological make-up of abusers by both laypersons and professionals. In addition, you will be enlightened on various aspects of abuse and what you can do about it.
This is not a blog for the judgmental, the squeamish, or those who would like nothing more than to gossip about the content. However, what this work accomplishes is what deceased victims, who have gone before us didn't, and that was an awakening to what goes on behind the closed doors of some relatives, friends, co-workers, and others. What you see isn't always what you get. What you believe isn't abuse just might be.
From tactics to manipulate, confuse, blame, or brainwash, an abuser is clever while smiling. He doesn't always look like the creepy guy in a horror film walking on the side of the road or the guy you see staring off into space on a crowded bus. He isn't always a "he" who abuses either. Sometimes he is a she. There are many types of abusers that fall in various social classes, come from a variety of backgrounds, and are quite skilled at making the public believe they are open, honest and true while partners, exes, parents, children, and others no different.
I have spent years studying personally and professionally these deceptive men and women who believe themselves to be quite loving, kind, and more, but the truth of the matter is that many have been through much trauma over the years that has never been dealt with spiritually, mentally and/or physically. Their minds warped, their stories twisted, their line of reasoning disturbing, and their spiritual belief system false.
Not everyone is meant to be married or in a relationship, have children, assist others, and do more, yet they try anyway and miserably fail. We can't make a round peg fit in a square hole, my friends. In other words, there is no forcing something that was never meant to be or trying to make a witch look like a fairy godmother or a narcissist look like a Prince Charming. People who labor to love abusive mates often deceive themselves and others.
Laboring to love emotionally and physically abusive individuals is a daily work that requires much sacrifice of money, time, patience, and more. If an abuser is emotionally unavailable, you are forcing something that is not going to work in the long term. If he or she is filled with envy, hatred, and fights every time you say something is wrong, be prepared to spend most of your life verbally or physically battling with such a person. Love was never meant to be like slave labor, but victims work and feel like slaves in these relationships!
It is my personal belief that troubled men and women in such tiresome, emotionally and physically draining relationships will be set free based on their hearts' desire--only God really knows that! Allow this blog to give you the knowledge, understanding, and protection you need to stand up for yourself and protect those around you. Feel free to subscribe, share or comment.
Nicholl McGuire
YouTube channel: nmenterprise7
Twitter @nichollmcguire
Also on Pin Interest, Stumble Upon and other social sites around the web.
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