Sometimes we are unaware of what is really going on behind the luxurious lifestyles of those esteemed for what they have, who they know, and what they have done for others. Some of those individuals who walk with such confident exteriors often feel small on the inside. We often assume that it is the poor, broke and ugly that are abused, when the reality is that successful, beautiful men and women are abused too.
I think of a time in my young life where I was quite popular and many people admired me for my talents and skills. But during what should have been a great period in my life, behind closed doors, I experienced things like: called names over petty things, threatened when I didn't behave like my partner wanted, choked, hit and pushed when arguments became intense. My roller coaster private life eventually affected my professional life.
After getting out of one abusive situation, I later got involved with a serial cheater who didn't love women, rather he used them. He was a follower of satanic principles, admired the late Anton Szandor LaVey (1930—1997), founder of the Church of Satan, and enjoyed reveling in the fact that he behaved better than many Christians he knew. When I shared my personal faith with my former partner, the following year LaVey had passed, he commented, "You believe in that book of fairytales..." His mockery increased as we grew closer. Our arguments gradually intensified and I often felt a nervousness in my belly when I was around what I thought to be a gentleman turned demon to the point that sometimes I couldn't eat or sleep. I was one of many women victimized emotionally by the charming man's misdeeds i.e.) cheating, frequent lying, pornography obsessions, lusting after young women/girls, hot temper, impatience, laziness, procrastination, selfishness, mean-spiritedness, etc.
It is quite ignorant of those who have never been abused to assume that "...something must be wrong" with the victims for making the choices that they make. How about these critics haven't yet met the wolves in sheeps' clothing or better yet they don't know they are being swindled by those they think love them?
Nicholl McGuire is the author of Tell Me Mother You're Sorry, Know Your Enemy: The Christian's Critic and other books.