Perfectly Content in One's Sickness - When the Victim Doesn't Want Freedom

Believe it or not, there are emotionally and physically battered men, women and children in this world who have grown quite accustomed to being in what we would say is "a bad situation."  They have found that staying with abusers is much easier for them then trying to live independently.


The pain, relocation stress, worry of bills, children's cries for the angry parent, and more are future issues that they don't want to have to deal with; therefore, these victims just resolve in their minds to stay with abusers.  They have no plans on getting free of anything because they don't believe that the relationship is so bad that they need to leave.  For some victims, they know that their abusers controlling and manipulative tactics are wrong, but they just deal with them anyway while hoping things get better year after year after year.  Others are aware that being hit, choked, slapped, kicked, or shoved is bad, but they don't bother to retaliate, call the police, or do much else.  Some just fight back when an abuser acts crazy and so life goes on.


The worry and anger that many, on the outside looking in, have toward people in miserable relationships is justified, but if the victims have become so brainwashed that they can't see their own freedom, then we can do nothing else, but focus on those who sincerely want peace for their selves and families.  It hurts to watch some of these victims act like puppets, robots, and servants for partners, but that's the life that they ended up with because they refused to leave while they still had a mind and the energy to go.  Some did leave but only returned back to abusers over and over again.


For research on a mental illness that keeps victims loyal to abusers, check out Stockholm Syndrome.


Nicholl McGuire shares spiritual insight on YouTube channel: nmenterprise7.

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