There is No Reward for Suffering - Make an End to a Relationship Your New Years Resolution

A once single person may enter into a relationship in the hopes that a man or woman will provide him or her with things like: love, security, material wealth, children, vacations, and more, but how much suffering will one allow to maintain such a lifestyle?

Those who are in tough relationships with difficult people, suffer much!   A moody partner with a short fuse may be content one day, but threatening the next.  There are no rewards for putting up with such behavior.  No amount of goods will bring peace to a troubled relationship headed for destruction!  This is why many run to the church, a support group, use alcohol/drugs, take up a hobby, frequently talk or go out with family and friends, they know what they are living with!

Living life is challenging enough, but far worse when dealing with a hot headed man or woman who is unhappy with how his or her life is going these days.  Despite warnings from loved ones to do some things different, the verbally or non-verbally abusive or controlling partner who is stubborn in his or her ways will keep acting out while blaming others for his or her short-comings.  One must face the reality that people change and who you once fell in love with, simply put, is not the same!  Things like death, illness, job loss, divorce, children, and other life challenges change people--don't make excuses for their upsetting behaviors and want to fight or black-ball others because they point out truth.  Everyday a partner, who is suffering in a bad relationship, is worried about what might a loved one say or do to make their lifestyles spiral backward.

With a new year, comes new decision-making.  One must either find more ways to cope with his or her suffering or move on.  "Coping, dealing, handling, putting up with, and ignoring..." are all words people use in mentally and physically draining relationships.  You know someone experiencing such heartache, stomachache, backache, and headache as a result? 

Sooner or later one will realize that the side effects of being in a relationship with a troubled man or woman outweigh the benefits received.  A woman who has spent years coddling, appeasing, lying to or about her partner is going to one day awake from her brainwashing and realize, "This sh"t ain't worth it!"  When she awakes from her slumber, she will fight back and when she does, all hell will break lose!  A man who has had to contend with an argumentative woman for decades is going to reach a point in the relationship that cursing, cheating, lying, sex, money, and whatever else he once used to distract him from his crazy relationship is no longer going to work and he too will fight back.  Don't be around for another verbal assault, hit, slap, scratch, choke, push, or any other form of punishment!  Protect your mind, body and spirit while you still have them and why not make this year the one that you plan your escape! 

For those who are suffering, but not being beaten physically, you might have to suffer a little longer for the kids, the house, the boat, the car and whatever else you got with this person until legalities are handled.  Others might have resolved to die in their suffering or wait for the other to be struck with death.  Then those who are being beaten down both mentally and physically, the suffering should have ended like yesterday, get out while you still can!

Whatever you are experiencing or hoping for when it comes to your miserable relationship, know that only you know how much you can take and that there is no reward in this life or the next one for permitting someone to bring out the worst in you.

Nicholl McGuire talks of spiritual issues on YouTube channel: nmenterprise7.