Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate

Some women live for a wild time with a wild boyfriend.  They enjoy rough sex, crazy thrills, weird foods, and fun places to try new things.  But at some point life slows down whether through an unexpected pregnancy, death, lost of freedom, or some other difficult time.  The laughter stops, the pain takes over then one starts wondering, "How did I get here?" Bruised, bloodied, sick, or sore all over from yet another fight with a man who claims to love her, a young woman says, "Never again will I date another man like this one!"  So off she goes, a free woman with legs still intact and very much capable of living life without a violent lover.  Yet, days, weeks, months, or years later, who comes walking into her life, but another angry, evil man! Evil and violent men oftentimes don't behave weird, at least in the beginning of the dating process, they tend to cover up all signs with many words and promises while smiling.  They offer the...

When dealing with a number of trials in your life, it is best to have some good friends or acquaintances that are willing to help.  But how do you know who is friend or foe when you have become accustomed to welcoming bad people in your life? 7 Signs You Have a Good Friend 1.  This person listens and responds to your needs. Whatever the issue, your friend is listening and only responding when he or she feels it is necessary.  This person doesn't make you feel like you are talking to a wall, are a bad person, or not worth his or her time. 2.  He or she appreciates you by telling you so verbally and physically. A good friend will show and tell how much he or she appreciates what you do for him or her.  This person will find a way to return favors. 3.  He or she will not allow others to bad mouth or abuse you. When others attempt to say negative things about you, this person will speak up with positive things to say.  He...

Why does the violent man sit with a strange look on his face when out of the clear blue his girlfriend, gets the courage to scream, curse and throw things at him?  Has the abusive man ever bothered to think that his evil ways have begun to take their toil on his victim? From cheating to spying, whatever an abusive partner does that often makes his or her victim's stomach churn, heart race, or temper rise, sooner or later something is going to happen that is going to make someone go, "What the @#$% just happened?" How long does a physically or emotionally abusive person thinks he or she can keep ignoring a lover/partner, curse, lie, cheat, or act in other ways that baffle a victim before he or she explodes? A person who systematically drives someone crazy with the hope that he or she will self-harm or hurt others in an effort to rid him or her from one's life is a diabolical plan that often backfires.  Think of the many m...

He was so angry that he slapped his girlfriend across the face because this corporate CEO wanted to pay his lover back for her smart mouth.  She couldn't believe how insensitive her boyfriend was to her, so the stay-at-home mom bawled up her fist and punched him in the chest.   And so life goes on, or does it? People hit each other everyday somewhere in the world and when it happens the one being hit experiences rage, shock, fear, and thoughts of revenge.  It's as if the world has frozen in time when it happens to you.  "What the...just happened?  Who do you think you are?  Have you lost your mind?"  Most likely, the one doing the hitting did temporarily go insane, because no person with good sense would dare hit another, but one who is half nuts will and one who is defending his or herself will "go off" or mentally lose it as well. All logic goes out of one's head who is simply fed up with giving ...