Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate

Behind the Scenes of Many Dysfunctional Relationships They usually don't start that way, but then again, maybe.  Too blind to lust  they don't see the light. He didn't like the way she talked to him (even when he was in the wrong about things he did or didn't do.) Pouting, silence, cursing, talking about her negatively behind her back.  "B-tches!  All the same." She knew his thoughts just by the way he acted around her so she did the same. This time she was at fault.  "Two wrongs don't make it right." Complaints about the little things that grow into bigger things from debt to children. "You always want to do something with your family!  Who is that on your phone? What are you looking at on the computer?  You are such a liar!  Why do I put up with this sh-t!" Children witness the arguments, they cry.  Couple yelling.  Children say, "I wish they would stop." He lied about something again and so she caugh...

When was the last time you smiled genuinely in public and stayed content for longer than a few hours.  Did you experience that happiness when your partner was around or when he or she was away?  What about the things you once enjoyed prior to meeting your partner, are you still doing them and do they continue to bring you peace? It is unfortunate, but many people in challenging relationships secretly are unhappy because they have learned there lives have been changed upside down (and not for good) by mean-spirited, selfish and downright evil men and women.  Their lives have been ruined in so many ways by abusive people that it has taken years for some survivors to get minds, bodies, finances, property, and more back! The following are signs that you may already be in a situation or headed in a direction where your life may be significantly impacted for the worse by an abusive mate. 1)  You are often depressed. Yes you have your good days, but they don't la...

He could do something about the odor that comes from lips, underarms, feet, and other places, but he doesn't.  She could do something about her chronic health issues, but why should she?  The two are fighting using their untreated health issues as weapons against one another.  Neither likes or even loves each other.  Both have common problems that could easily be fixed, but no, he or she doesn't believe that their problems are that bad because they are prideful and stubborn that is until a third party says, "What's wrong with you...What's that smell?  Why haven't you got checked out yet?"  Maybe they will do something or maybe not. Abusive relationships are not only dangerous to remain in, but also crazy-making.  You can drive a person mad with your refusal to get treatment for a health woe that irritates any one of the five senses. There are those people who have been known to do some deadly things to others including passing on an STD to teach a le...

  BUT NOW?   Time doesn't heal all wounds especially when people refuse to change.   ____________________________________   Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate by Nicholl McGuire

Not every phone call to the police ends up turning out in the way the caller might think. Times have changed since the days our grandmothers and great grandmothers dealt with domestic violence, but there are still those in and out of law enforcement that have their personal bias views.  From the sexist father to the controlling mother-in-law, someone is telling a victim, "Just call the police..." when trouble arises.  But will the outcome really end up in the way that they think? A number of victims have reached out to law enforcement only to find themselves being abused again before being sent off to jail.  But why?  Consider this, emotions are running high with everyone involved.  Critics feel you should have left the toxic relationship a long time ago, but you stayed.  You might be the one speaking to the police one day unable to explain the details leading up to the abuse.  You may not remember what you or the abuser said or did due ...

Face Your Foe: Wolves in Sheep's Clothing in Your Own Family : They smile in your face and talk about you behind your back. They lie, swear, and even shed a tear when they are caught doing wrong.  These...

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