Wednesday

You Don’t Love Him, You Just Don’t Want Anyone Else to Have Him




Not ready to let go of a man who name-calls, hits, slams doors, and curses you when he doesn’t like what you say or do, why?  Well, for some women they simply stay because, “I’m not letting that b*tch he’s sleeping with have him!  He is the father of my kids,” says the abused woman.  Meanwhile, “the b*tch doesn’t “want” him, because she already had him and she isn’t much fond of him,” says her friend.

You can clearly see from the opening paragraph there is dysfunction, illogical reasoning, and unnecessary drama.  But if you try to talk to someone who is going through something similar or if you are that person, there is no telling you that a man who cheats and disrespects you is not worth keeping.  Instead, you have to one day have an epiphany and realize that you can move on with your life without him.  Now presently your circumstances might not permit a mad dash for the door, but the idea is to start making your way to the door.  

Come up with a plan to make your transition into your new world easier.  This might mean additional employment, more help from relatives and friends, a relocation, or law enforcement involvement.  Whatever it is that you might need, know this, you don’t have to ever put up with foolishness.  You have not been put on this planet for someone to wipe his or her feet on you with lies, cover-ups, false accusations, abuse, and more!  

Pick your head up my sister and look beyond the natural, see yourself the way God sees you!

Nicholl McGuire is the author of Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate and Laboring to Love Myself, both on Amazon.com

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God didn't put you with an abusive mate. Your flesh did.