Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate

Plenty of victims have learned the hard way that too much idle time spent around an angry man or woman, especially during evenings and weekends, will lead to sooner or later abusive words, hands, or more striking out.  People, who are historically rude with others, are not easy to like or love.  This is why many angry, lonely people take to the Internet for some social stimulation, because they have offended most folks who have been in their presence offline.  In time, their own kinfolk want very little to do with them. Family members, friends, exes, co-workers and others have the mental and physical freedom that  abused men and women have yet to experience when it comes to dealing with these difficult people.  The kind of freedom that victims envy.  They can be cordial periodically with their abusive sons, daughters, brothers, sisters, friends, etc. while carrying on with their lives, because they don't have to live with them, sit down and have dinner, or do anything more.

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After the honeymoon period and more repeated patterns of abuse, I knew that my abuser was not going to try to win me any longer through niceties, because he knew I was on to his game, so he started acting cold and evil. With no smile on his face, intensity in his eyes, he added another stage to the abusive cycle I would like to call, "The We Need to Talk" phase. At first I went along with these invites usually where no one is around or can see you. Every time I did, I got set up. It starts with an exchange of pleasantries like, "How was your day? Nice hairstyle...I like what you're wearing." Then something is mentioned about an incident that left him angry. "So what did you mean the other day when you said...I didn't like how you talked to me...I heard that you told...."  So you talk about the part you played in the incident without much emotion. You aren't screaming, crying or reacting in a way he might expect. You may even thr

When you had set out to get the finest woman or man in the room or online or maybe you are a teen who sought the most attractive-looking male or female in your class, did you ever think in a thousand years that something might be mentally and/or physically unstable with them? Of course you didn't during those early days of dating.  Most of us don't think about what might someone's flaws be when we are hell-bent on connecting with them or remaining with these individuals for shallow reasons like:  sexiness, periodic niceties and polite mannerisms.  We don't bother to ponder why a mentally disturbed partner was single for a long time prior to meeting us or was in a rush to connect with us when there were others, possibly many others.  You might have thought what might have caused the last break up or you went along with whatever he or she told you while hoping for the best.  No thorough investigating, research, talking to anyone who was familiar with the previous re

As much as you think, you might be justified on putting your hands in your partner's face or elsewhere, understand not everyone is going to react in reasonable ways especially if one isn't mentally stable.  Think about it and avoid the temptation to hit, slap, or anything similar.  Looks like in the photo, this guy has bad breath too!  If that's the case, she could have just raised her hand up and kept her hand raised up but not near his face just in case he tried to hit her.  Something as simple as this can lead to an arrest, possibly some jail time, a job loss and supervised visits with children. Women can be abusive girlfriends and wives too!