We have all been there and done that, thought we knew everything about everyone in our circle and so we defended them. We fought long, hard, and ended up looking quite stupid in the end! Women, who are victims of abusive men, don't want to believe the truth and don't want you handing them any mirrors either!
The know-it-all victim fights with mom, her best friend, and even her children about her no-good husband or boyfriend. "But I love him...so what! I know already..." she says to those who really wish she would go on and get a life away from her miserable partner. Yet she insists, "Things will get better...and you don't know him like I do."
Victims brag about the things they claim to know already. Like the time(s) a partner cheated, lied, abused, used, and did other things. They have advice for everyone else, but can't figure out how to have any personal peace. Living with and sexing an abusive man (or woman) will drive you crazy! You think you are stable, smart, sexy, and sweet, but what the world really sees is a stupid, sassy, sour, sulking lady who acts as if she knows much when the truth is she knows very little when it comes to having a quality relationship that satisfies her.
Remember these know-it-all victims messed up early on when they got involved with a jealous, controlling, or miserable man or woman. They refused to see the signs that the person was difficult, weird, or has some kind of mental illness. The know-it-all victim believes she can get out of the relationship, but her feet do nothing but stay put. She feeds off of the pain of others to help her feel good about herself. "At least my relationship isn't as bad as her's or his," the victim thinks. The truth is the victim's situation is much worse, because she or he is self-deceived.
You may have encountered someone like this or you are currently that person. You might feel like you can't manage your situation or someone else's or maybe you have some things in control, but not other things. Whatever you are feeling right now, just know that you won't get very far with someone who believes he or she is right about everything. Prideful people are the most difficult to communicate with, cohabitate, and love.
We don't know it all as survivors, but what we do know is that person we used to be! Break free from toxic relationships! See Psalm 91 for those interested in spiritual uplift.
Nicholl McGuire is the author of this blog and many books. Check out a YouTube Channel that encourages listeners to move on with their lives by trusting in one's Creator.
Based on a book with the same title written by Nicholl McGuire, this domestic and dating violence blog offers support to anyone who is laboring to love an emotionally or physically abusive partner. Feel free to explore numerous relationship and family issues. Please be advised to seek a professional for counsel on abuse. Contributors are not all licensed or trained in relationship counseling, domestic abuse, and teen dating violence. Please be advised this is a public blog.
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