Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate

Thought she had everything figured out went to church and gave a shout. Moved on with life and felt real good until something inside said, "I wish we would..." Went against all sound advice, went back to her old vice. Couldn't face the fact she failed, a new life she had derailed. Needed things to go right, wasn't ready to see the light. "If the relationship was going to make it," she reasoned, "I had best be ready and seasoned." So she decorated her lost self, made gifts like Santa's little elf. For him, she cooked, cleaned, and gleamed, while things didn't appear like what they seemed. He was happy as long as she didn't change, so she stayed in his view, his controlling range. But one day she had her own thought, she only did as she was taught. Had been to a higher institution of learning, but at times she wasn't all that discerning. Her man wasn't supportive of who she was, and all those thin...

They tried to warn you, but you didn't listen.  So in love, you keep spending your money, time, and energy on a man who has a history of using and abusing women.  He may not be as mean-spirited as he once was and he might be okay with you going here and there, but something on the inside of you feels an overwhelming need to keep doing for him at energy levels that might eventually put you on your back in a hospital bed somewhere! When you are upset with him, you have learned how to redirect your anger.  You will talk harshly to the children; rather than your husband/boyfriend/partner.  You will distract yourself with people and their dramas outside of your home so that you don't have to deal with the two-legged one sleeping next to you.  You justify your behavior with "being there for others" and "helping people" while you claim, "My life isn't so bad.  At least my man doesn't do this or that...like her's."  But let's talk about y...

You heard the stories many times when women get involved with angry men (or men get involved with angry women) and before long the couples are riding on a merry-go-round of madness! She is often upset about Abusive Him while he is trying to figure out a way to let go of Emotional Her--this time for good.  The pair are often yelling, bitter, and at times downright rude to one another.  Witnesses try to intervene but to no avail.  Even God attempts to talk to these two during quiet moments of the day, but they aren't listening. One day they are in love and are defending one another like they were always on their best behavior.  The next they are fighting with one another to the point that someone is bleeding.  He says, "It is her fault I act this way..." while forgetting his personal history of mayhem with family and other girlfriends in the past.  She claims, "He loves me...we just have fights sometimes--everyone has problems!"  Not like this c...