Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate

Why does the violent man sit with a strange look on his face when out of the clear blue his girlfriend, gets the courage to scream, curse and throw things at him?  Has the abusive man ever bothered to think that his evil ways have begun to take their toil on his victim? From cheating to spying, whatever an abusive partner does that often makes his or her victim's stomach churn, heart race, or temper rise, sooner or later something is going to happen that is going to make someone go, "What the @#$% just happened?" How long does a physically or emotionally abusive person thinks he or she can keep ignoring a lover/partner, curse, lie, cheat, or act in other ways that baffle a victim before he or she explodes? A person who systematically drives someone crazy with the hope that he or she will self-harm or hurt others in an effort to rid him or her from one's life is a diabolical plan that often backfires.  Think of the many men and women who wanted out of marriages

He was so angry that he slapped his girlfriend across the face because this corporate CEO wanted to pay his lover back for her smart mouth.  She couldn't believe how insensitive her boyfriend was to her, so the stay-at-home mom bawled up her fist and punched him in the chest.   And so life goes on, or does it? People hit each other everyday somewhere in the world and when it happens the one being hit experiences rage, shock, fear, and thoughts of revenge.  It's as if the world has frozen in time when it happens to you.  "What the...just happened?  Who do you think you are?  Have you lost your mind?"  Most likely, the one doing the hitting did temporarily go insane, because no person with good sense would dare hit another, but one who is half nuts will and one who is defending his or herself will "go off" or mentally lose it as well. All logic goes out of one's head who is simply fed up with giving an emotional partner pass after pass on his or