Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate

NOTE:  Some men might change, but not all especially when drugs, alcohol, bad associations, and ignorance is involved.  A hatred of women, self-hatred, personal prejudices, and more will only aggravate an already bad situation that should have ended a long time ago.  A man who wasn't always verbally abusive might go about his relationship differently, but don't hold your breath, create distance from someone who is hurting you.  Listen to what verbal abuse sounds like at its worse below:  Example of a Verbally Abusive Relationship that Didn't Change!

1. They won't all love you just because you do and say nice things. 2. They won't respect you if you should dress too sexy, act too boldly, or run with the wrong company of people. 3.  They don't much care what your family thinks and will work hard to get you to focus solely on what they think. 4.  They become jealous when you smile, converse long, and act polite toward other men. 5.  There are those who will act like me.  So if you don't like me much, then make a better selection. A little advice goes a long way, but when dads are too busy doing everything else, but being good fathers, oftentimes daughters don't truly know the difference between a man who sincerely loves and appreciates them and one who is simply using and abusing them.  Therefore, if the first man in a little girl's life was mean-spirited and (emotionally and/or physically) abusive toward her mother, then what do you expect she is going to do until she grows up an...

When Ready to Break up with the Narcissist What to Expect

When I reflect on a time in my life when I was so angry at a man who claimed to have loved me, one thing that stood out most in my mind was his repeated, "I'm sorry...I apologize."  He was sorry alright and so were some of those after him!  Sorry men with sorry lifestyles wanting me to complete them!  I had grown weary of trying to convince the mentally disturbed that I was being faithful, open, true, dedicated to the relationship, willing to be all things to them--you name it!  And what about me?  How many more apologies was I willing to accept before I ended up in a hospital, jail or six feet deep? An abuser whether emotionally or physically demeaning is going to apologize, because he knows that it works.  "He/She will forgive me," the abuser tells his or her self.  But a victimized woman or man who is at his or her breaking point, will put one's foot down one day and say, "Not good...

To awaken those who are asleep when it comes to what a healthy functional relationship looks like, the following videos have been posted.  Enjoy! An abused woman can grow into a controlling woman needing to dominate her man, family and others. Learn more: Author of Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate shares her story on television show Is it really love that he feels for you and vice versa or is it manipulation?