Women: Are you accepting the truth that he is giving you or are you in denial?

As women, we have a bad habit of denying the truth that sits right in front of our eyes! When we aren't ready to accept what someone has told us or did to us, we try to ignore the signs. We talk ourselves out of what we see and hear from the man who has rejected us. We blame ourselves. We try to rationalize our man's past erratic behavior. Instead of being in denial, we need to come to terms with the truth that sits right between our eyes. If he says he doesn't love us -- accept it! If he says he doesn't want to live with us -- accept it! We, as women, have this twisted ideology about love. We try to reword what he is telling us to make us feel comfortable. We try to persuade him to change his mind. The reality is he meant what he said and he said what he meant. Now if he deviates from his script, we have to reason that he wants something from us, and unfortunately it usually is a night or two of sex. Then he is back to preaching how he doesn't want to be with you, the relationship isn't working, etc. Of course he will act this way, because he got what he wanted, but what about you? Did he give you the committed relationship you were looking for? Did he fulfill his promises? Did he put you first before his work, family, friends, etc.?

Listen, we as women need to stop advising our girlfriends to "stick it out...stay with him...he really loves you!" Consider the source, your girlfriend may have a great relationship, bad relationship, or none at all. She may have the kind of man that confuses or deceives her and so she walks around in a bubble herself. She may also suffer from a case called, "denial" too. So let her advice go in one ear and out the other. Accept your man's truth. If he said, he doesn't want you, he doesn't! In case you are in search of a website that speaks to this issue of denial and acceptance when it comes to relationships, visit http://www.midlifecrisismarriageadvocate.com/denialvsacceptance.html