Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate

Before you met that man you call your boyfriend, lover, partner, or husband, you had a simple life.  You could manage it.  There wasn't much happening and you actually smiled more than frowned.  But these days, it becomes increasingly challenging to smile, laugh at his jokes, or even be in the same room with him.  For some of you, you feel like a part of you is a tad bit crazy, insane, or a bit weird since meeting your partner.  You're not alone.  Do you find yourself doing any of the following? 1.  Worried much about things like: whether he is telling you the truth or not, seeing someone else, or doing something he knows you don't like.  He is often quiet, beating around the bush when you confront him, ignores you, argues, or jokes. 2.  Looking through his things while your stomach and head aches. You are concerned about what more you might find. 3.  Thinking far too much about what he does when you aren't around him.  You hope to catch him in yet another lie.

You don't suspect anything when you pass some couples on the street, stand behind them in lines, or sit near them at restaurants, but it won't be long now before they will be fighting. Oftentimes the conflict starts as a result of outside influences.  Some single women don't think twice before they are flirting with a man who is obviously in a relationship .  Consider this, the woman standing or sitting next to him might be a victim or an abuser and she is watching.  But silly, desperate women could care less until the couple's issues become theirs.  Then there are those additional irritations between couples like:  being hungry, sitting in traffic, busy-body relatives who don't know when to shut up, differing opinions, and annoying children. It isn't long before one or both are at the point in their minds when they just can't take much else. Most of us would eat something, go to bed, get out the home, or talk to someone on the phone. However, some coup

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When abused women of decades past advised their married daughters to have separate bank accounts, they didn't advise this because they wanted to ruin marriages; rather they knew the kind of men their daughters were involved with and the chances their relationships might be good in the long-term was highly unlikely.  Men with much or little money that don't allow wives any access, not even a peak at their bank statements, do indeed hold the power.  Their worries over what their wives might do with their finances is irrelevant here.  To stay on point, this blog entry relates to husbands with money controlling wives who don't have any unless they choose to give them some. Some of these controlling husbands, boyfriends, or lovers don't want their women to work.  They will either sweet-talk the women into avoiding employment, change employment or quit a job especially if there are too many of the opposite sex, pout about their wives' choice, give their women the silen

An abusive man or woman who hates any and everyone should be like an annoying fly, you should want to avoid it or rid yourself of the noise.  But so many men and women stick it out with their name-calling partners, prejudice lovers, and hateful spouses. When you hear a person talking meanly about others, it should be a red flag to get away from him or her early on.  However, what happens is many dating singles will ignore the hate.  The attractive partner and all that comes with him or her becomes more important than how he or she might potentially treat you in the future. It is safe to say that the day a man or woman calls you out of your name or argues about hating a certain ethnicity, gender, etc., is the day that you have to draw a line in the sand.  If you don't, then it is only a matter of time that you will be the victim laboring to love an abusive mate. Nicholl McGuire shares spiritual insight on YouTube channel: nmenterprise7

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