Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate

Everyone has to tip toe around her temperamental man.  She has brought much drama into the family when she got with him and people are angered with her because of it.  As the holidays fast approach, the couple has been arguing about money, family, and where to put a Christmas tree.  There is unnecessary chaos in the woman's home and it only got worse when he hit her, again! This is just a made-up scenario, but it happens, couples fighting over so many things and relatives and friends can only further complicate matters with, "She deserved it...you know how she can be.  Let's eat."  Abused women will be showing up at family gatherings everywhere trying to excuse yet another bruise for being "...my fault."  Well, don't buy into that one!  Ask yourself, "Why would a grown woman have black and blue marks on her face, hands, arms, stomach, back, or elsewhere and it was all her fault?"  Unless she fell down somewhere with no one around, then okay

Weeping endureth the night so who would have guessed the night Baby, why do you have a knife I didn ʼ t mean it, I love you, your my wife lets talk about this all things are possible with God in the mix Put it down and give me hug All I wanna do is Love this argument got way out of order It was my fault, sort of but that ʼ s does ʼ t matter I move slow as if I instantly gotten fatter Was it the attention, was it my tone, could it be the money I would give all up if you will still be my honey Let me hold you, no more mourning Cause joy is coming in the morning by Shane O'Garro

NOTE:  Some men might change, but not all especially when drugs, alcohol, bad associations, and ignorance is involved.  A hatred of women, self-hatred, personal prejudices, and more will only aggravate an already bad situation that should have ended a long time ago.  A man who wasn't always verbally abusive might go about his relationship differently, but don't hold your breath, create distance from someone who is hurting you.  Listen to what verbal abuse sounds like at its worse below:  Example of a Verbally Abusive Relationship that Didn't Change!